So here’s my first ever post on my motherhood journey! The only help a mother needs in this journey is support, encouragement and proper nutrition. But in our country, there are many ways in which all the women around you would want to help you – ways like restricting your diet immensely to checking on your supply or discussing silly superstitions! From your housemaid to maalishwali, from your neighbour to that relative you hardly met in the last few years – everyone would like to share their piece of advice with you. A first-time mother who is just recovering from the weakness of surgery, or childbirth, who is already trying to adjust to her new routine… her new sleep(less) night pattern is cluttered with so many unnecessary and unwanted suggestions that her journey seems more stressful than joyful. I just want to put out a few pointers that proved very helpful in my own journey – hopefully, some new mums find it useful in their personal journeys of motherhood
1. Be informed
We are living in the 21st century. You have an access to the internet even on your phone – before following any advice blindly, check the facts. There are many links and FB groups like FMC which will guide you with the help of medical professionals.
We are living in the 21st century. You have an access to the internet even on your phone – before following any advice blindly, check the facts. There are many links and FB groups like FMC which will guide you with the help of medical professionals.
2. Believe in yourself
Instinct comes as a part of motherhood. Follow your instincts instead of following others or following trends. Have faith that you are doing the best for your child. Do not compare yourself with other mothers. Create your own experience rather than following someone else’s.
Instinct comes as a part of motherhood. Follow your instincts instead of following others or following trends. Have faith that you are doing the best for your child. Do not compare yourself with other mothers. Create your own experience rather than following someone else’s.
3. Eat healthy
Just not after pregnancy but before conceiving, during pregnancy and post pregnancy, at all the stages. It’s necessary not only for your child but for your own physical health as well. It will help you recover sooner and better.
Just not after pregnancy but before conceiving, during pregnancy and post pregnancy, at all the stages. It’s necessary not only for your child but for your own physical health as well. It will help you recover sooner and better.
4. Be happy
It’s easy to say this but difficult to follow, especially with a complete routine change. But I have come to believe that we pass our vibes to our children. The merrier we are, the happier they are. The day we are stressed – they turn cranky! So to maintain our own calm and to avoid the child becoming cranky, we must learn to be happy in any situation.
It’s easy to say this but difficult to follow, especially with a complete routine change. But I have come to believe that we pass our vibes to our children. The merrier we are, the happier they are. The day we are stressed – they turn cranky! So to maintain our own calm and to avoid the child becoming cranky, we must learn to be happy in any situation.
5. Ask for help
It’s not at all easy to manage a newborn. Feeding, burping, cleaning, napping on a loop and looking after the house. A mother needs help in the initial phase – accept this and ask for help without hesitation!
It’s not at all easy to manage a newborn. Feeding, burping, cleaning, napping on a loop and looking after the house. A mother needs help in the initial phase – accept this and ask for help without hesitation!
Above all keep praying that you get strength to cope up with your new role.
(As we celebrate our 6th anniversary today, am glad about Shradha's first post that appeared on the First Mom's Club page on 12th Oct '17 - a habit she's picked up over the past 5 years and I wish she continues to pen down her thoughts at appropriate occasions - https://firstmomsclub.in/what-makes-a-happy-mommy/?utm_source=facebook&utm_medium=social&utm_content=happymommy)